Time to Call It Quits…

Unfortunately, the element of time has not been on my side this week. The days have just blurred into each other leaving me to want more. There has been so much to be done that I really didn’t have time to sit down and write the way that I wanted to but I had to at least put this thought out there… 

Understanding that all of us have been hurt at least once in our lives by someone who we cared for, admired or respected, I can identify with those who have been scorned. But what I don’t comprehend is when the hurt occurred months, years or even decades ago and the person is talking and behaving as if it happened yesterday. 

The only reason why I bring this topic up is because I know a few ladies who are holding on to a great amount of bitterness. I mean soul consuming hatred for someone who was once in their lives. And even though the relationship ended terribly YEARS ago, they are unable to move on with their lives. They are simply stuck in that moment of heartache. Meanwhile, those who have done them wrong have continued on with their lives whether this means that they have married another woman, moved to another city; work in a different profession, stopped drinking, smoking or gambling, et cetera. They have moved on and lived. They have changed and sometimes for the better. But the ladies who they have left behind, filled with anger and rage, continue to erect their own demise. 

The same tales-of-woe on that broken record of theirs create a wall of division between themselves and the rest of the world. Granted the situation is sad but when is it time to call it quits? When should their sad song come to an end? When their thoughts, their whole world, their entire being is consumed with hatred and disdain for the person who hurt them. I know that we all feel and handle our emotions differently but seriously, when is it time to let go? When is it time to let go of the bitterness with their hearts? How and when should the healing process begin?